Hair, A-holery, and Friends

What’s up peops?!?

I stayed up until 3 AM reading the last book in the Twilight saga.  I know don’t hate me.  I’m in love with the sexy Native American werewolf, Jacob.  I thought I’d be crashing right about now, but I’m unusually hyped up.  Weird.  So stay tuned for the wonderful randomness that has been my life since the last time I blogged (excluding the net worth post I just posted).

1.       I twisted my hair with yarn and kept it pretty long.   I’ve never braided my own hair before and apparently it looks pretty good because I’ve been getting lustful looks from plenty of men.  I’m missing my fro, so It’s definitely coming out for the July 4^th weekend. 

2.       Ant’s dad asked to meet up with me yesterday after work.  Of course, he wouldn’t tell me what he wanted over the phone.  ::drama queen::  We finally met up and he told me that he’s ready to start the steps to develop a relationship with Ant-- starting with tennis lessons.  ::rolls eyes:: I am very apprehensive.  I don’t trust him for crap and I believe it’s better to not have him involved than be some crappy dad that shows up every blue moon.  I’m gonna give him a chance, but If he falters, I will cut the a__hole out of my son’s life.  ***No joke**

3.       My bff at work told me that I’ve been glowing when we were discussing what Ant’s dad could want to talk about.  He said maybe dead beat dad has seen the “new  glow” and is trying to worm his way back in.  I dismissed that possibility and asked him what he meant by glowing.  He just shrugged and passed over the question.  –glowing--- Hmmmm…. I am definitely happy and having fun.  It’s hard not to smile when you’re having fun.  I’m embracing my singltude and dressing to fit the part.  Secretly… just a little bit, it’s fun having a kicking it partner at work, which is probably making me smile more.  He’s only been back at the job for about three months after being gone for 5 years.  But the job had been more fun since he’s been back.  We have the same goals and interests like exercise and what we want out of life.  And I know people are thinking we’re sneaking around, but he’s married and me don’t do married men.  Plus, I really like having another genuine friend and I wouldn’t want to mess that up.

4.       I don’t get hit on often, but two men have asked me out over the past few months and they’ve both been barbers.  I’m thinking barbers are not intimidated by natural hair at all.

Alright.. I’m off to study…..

JULY 2009

It’s the First of the Month!  Yall know what the means.  I know you’ve been dying to read this.  So here it goes.  My July Net worth:

Assets	June	July	Difference
Cash Accts.	$10,577.00	$10,569.00	-$8.00
Home	$124,000.00	$124,000.00	$0.00
Rental	$72,348.00	$72,348.00	$0.00
401k	$4,848.00	$5,072.00	$224.00
529	$451.00	$509.00	$58.00
Roth	$1,160.00	$1,185.00	$25.00
Misc (Car, etc)	$5,000.00	$5,000.00	$0.00
Total Assets	$218,384.00	$218,683.00	$299.00
Liabilities	June	July	Difference
CC	$1,973.00	$940.00	$1,033.00
Home	$96,220.00	$96,070.00	$150.00
Rental	$66,038.00	$65,974.00	$64.00
HELOC	$8,600.00	$8,550.00	$50.00
Student Loans	$54,727.00	$54,675.00	$52.00
Total Liabilities	$227,558.00	$226,209.00	$1,349.00
Net Worth	-$9,174.00	-$7,526.00	$1,648.00

 

The year is half way over and I had hoped to have a positive net worth by this time.  Oh well, at least it’s rising.

Once again I did horrible with my spending.  HORRIBLE! Too much fun, not enough money.  So this month I’m gonna have to taper down on the

Spending—A LOT!!  L

 

Report Card: Transformers 2

After two weeks of begging from my kids and me having to remind them that the movie has not been released yet, I took them to see Transformers 2.  I did not like the first one and after reading this from Siddity I was not looking forward to seeing the second one.  Here is my report card for the movie:

Diversity: F---- due to racial and ethnic stereotypes.  It wasn’t just African Americans being blatantly stereotyped.  They had the ghoulish, Igorish advisor to the Decepticons, the rough and tough stereotype of an aged Irish or Scottish guy (Sean Connery), and there were many more stupid, unoriginal characters I’m not going to list.

Womanisting:  F—because Megan Fox talked like a baby and pouted the entire time with her newly fake, disgusting lips.  And for having all the other females in the movie as sexual objects or crazy, whacked out moms (she was funny by the way).  There was a female autobot, but she died 1 second after we found out she was female (or as female as a robot can get).

Total awesomeness from the gaze of a white male:  A--   it was off the  scale awesome if you don’t look beneath the surface!  The fight scenes were cool and the sound effects were better than the first.  Shia LeBeouf was really, really cute.   Tyrese was cute but he was only in the movie a few times and they gave him the most ridiculous one liners. 

I also thought the transformers had way too many human characteristics (clichéd characteristics) no originality or deep thought put into this at all… but hey I guess you don’t need that when you have all the money in the world to blow things up.  I feel bad because I would still see the movie again.  ::hangs head in shame::

Bring On the Fun

Hola chica’s and whatever the Spanish word is for men,  I’m back in the blogspot.

How is my writing and studying you ask?  Not so good.  I haven’t been doing either.  What have I been doing?  I’ve been decluttering.  Apparently I can’t declutter and do anything else.  I’ve been feeling clogged—maybe that is what they mean by feng shui being blocked.  For a person with ADD it’s a long process.  I hate cleaning.  Organizing isn’t so bad, it just takes me forever to do it.  Half of my desk is clean at work and it feels so good. 

The Kitchen and 75% of my living room is decluttered!  I need to move the tables and exercise bike out of the living room… for want of a man, I can’t move them into the attic by myself. 

Other randomness.   I was supposed to go to South Padre with a friend and his son, but it’s way more expensive this year ($179/night) than it was last year ($99/night) and I have a feeling that I shouldn’t go.  Especially since I haven’t saved up the full amount needed for the trip (hotel, gas, rental, food= $1,100) and I think I need to get my roof repaired (????) and my hot water tank replaced (~$500-$700).  I feel really bad since my friend will have to go by himself, but I don’t want to go anywhere (especially when it involves debt) just because I feel obligated.  Most importantly—I will not pay for a vacation on a credit card and I will not use my emergency fund to bank roll a vacation either!  It is much more important I fix my hot water tank (or whatever the problem is) than it is to go S. Padre.  I think we’ll just spend one night in a really good downtown hotel room, enjoy the fireworks, and see movies! 

Update: The plumber came out and told me my hot water tank is fine.  My drain was clogged and he unclogged it for $90.  Thank God for that, but I’m still not going.  I felt so relieved when I’d decided not to go that I took the kids swimming on a work night!  I decided that I’d whether take a lot of stay-cations (or is it mini-vacations) than one big vacation.  Awww yeah!  Bring on the fun!!!  I love summer!!!

 

 

Late Weekend Update

Back in the Blogspot!

Last weekend I went Dragon Boating! I've always, always, always wanted to go rowing. So when the opportunity came up to go dragon boating with a local's single group I jumped at the chance. And it was better than I dreamed it would be. Pics below (If you couldn't tell that's me at the end posing and looking like a rock star)

If you can't tell by the smile in the pic below, yes I was having that much fun!

The best part was I was pretty much the best in my boat.. (Yeah.. I'm bragging). My bff sitting next to me could not hang with me. He told me he was sore three days afterwards. Ha, yeah. Don't let the thickness fool ya... I am in shape. He told me later he was surprised by my stamina.

So then Sunday I went mountain biking with my partner. New trail. Freaking HARD. Torture. I kept thinking "why am I doing this to myself?" We even got lost. But then it was over and I was cool. I am no longer ADIDAS'n. So it was worth it, until I saw the freaking TICKS on my dang socks! Ticks! I had a picture in my head that they'd be giant black, aggressive things that dug their giant pincher's into my skin, but mostly they were really small, red and moving around as if they were lost.

I also so UP. That movie rocked! First it had an elderly guy as the and reluctant hero. Original!!!! Second, the little fat kid, Russell, was Asian- Japanese American. Score one for the POC! and you know what. I love it. there was no reason to cast him as Asian. His race or nationality is never mentioned in the movie. It was as if they cast a POC just because.

I had a discussion with my White male biking partner about it and he said I was wrong. Well eat it because here is the proof. Russell didn't fit into any Japanese stereotype, he wasn't especially smart, and gosh he came from a single parent home-- so how in the hell could he be Asian American? Probably the only ones who would notice the non-white features of Russell would be POC who seek out diversity in everything. And yes, I seek it and embrace it. Wiscon is teaching me well.

June's Net Worth

Ugh.. it’s Monday.  I have been out of my groove since Wiscon.  Every morning I wake up and I’m like one phone call away from not going to work. 

Ant’s 5^th Bday is today.  I’ve decided to throw him an impromptu birthday party.  –We’ll see how that goes. – Crazy note:  Ant’s dad called my last year for my birthday but he has yet to call his son for his birthday (going on 4 years straight!).  How sorry is that???!!!!!  WTF… why would you call me for my bday???? I hate you!!! Call your damn son! 

Anyways, It’s the first of the month… You know what that means.  It’s time to see how I’ve done with the money that God has entrusted me with.  Let’s see how this CEO has done…..

I didn’t do bad considering I went on vacation last month.  If I’d paid my cc bills (I am going to pay them when they are due) then I’d have had a decent month.  I am ever so happy to see my 401k moving up!

Assets	May	June	Difference
Cash Accts.	$9,877.00	$10,477.00	$600.00
Home	$125,000.00	$124,000.00	-$1,000.00
Rental	$72,348.00	$72,348.00	$0.00
401k	$4,343.00	$4,848.00	$505.00
529	$414.00	$451.00	$37.00
Roth	$1,135.00	$1,160.00	$25.00
Misc (Car, etc)	$5,000.00	$5,000.00	$0.00
Total Assets	$218,117.00	$218,284.00	$167.00
Liabilities	May	June	Difference
CC	$0.00	$1,973.00	$1,973.00
Home	$96,368.56	$96,220.00	-$148.56
Rental	$66,101.99	$66,038.00	-$63.99
HELOC	$8,650.00	$8,600.00	-$50.00
Student Loans	$54,302.00	$54,727.00	$425.00
Total Liabilities	$225,422.55	$227,558.00	$2,135.45
Net Worth	-$7,305.55	-$9,274.00	-$1,968.45

 

 

ADIDAS

A.D.I.D.A.S.  Seriously.  I think I need some type of anti-ADIDAS drug.  I wonder if there are any out there.  I guess I’m not helping my plight much by listening to Jill Scott and Ledisi.  Their voices are coated with it.  :::SIGH:::  I am off to work on my thesis now.  ---FYI, I may be using livejournal instead of the blog to tackle my studying and writing goals.  I will keep ya updated.  I hope everyone has a great weekend!

BTW, I’m not supposed to reading any blogs, but Onely seems to have figured out a way to fight ADIDAS. 

The Hiatus is Over

My 12 week body challenge, which really turned into a Single me challenge, is over.   I’ve become more comfortable as a singlutionary, I’ve learned how to apply make-up, and I’ve learned not be so scared to stand out. For the past five months, I’ve been working on building up my confident self; but now it’s time to focus on my ultimate goals, which are 1) Finishing my science fiction novel so I can get my master’s degree and 2) pass the Professional engineering exam so I can get a pay raise.  I’ve been on a short productive hiatus and I am ready to get knock those two things out of the way and focus on bigger and better goals.  So sorry guys, the topic for the rest of the year will focus on finishing my degree and passing my exam. 

I’m a firm believer that all things happen in its right time (I’ve been at this for a while).  I believe the right time is approaching and it’s approaching fast.

How am I going to do this you ask.  Well I gotta have a plan.

First of all, I need to get rid of the nonessential things that eat up my time.  I spend way too much time reading blogs.  I am an unashamed blogaholic.   I’ve learned how to embrace being single from The Singlutionary, how to take care of my natural hair from Black Girl With Long Hair and Curly Nikki, and how to apply make up from Jen’s Make up blog;  but I gotta stop reading some of the others.  I have over 100 blogs on my google reader.  It’s going to be hard, but I gotta do it.  I’ll still try to post comments on my regular reads (I can’t go completely cold turkey).

Second, I need to make a schedule and  stick to it.  As well as create deadlines and milestones and take them seriously.

Totally off subject.  I’m thinking once I get my master’s I want to try to teach some sci fi/fantasy classes.  How is that for a new goal?  But I can’t do that until I get the other two knocked out!

So, I’m finsta stop blogging about it and be about it.  I’ll keep you updated.